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Lorena Matarritaand boyfriend Nick Bisesi: We’re 24 years apart and crazy in love

After city planner Lorena Matarrita started a new job a few years ago, her boss casually asked about a photograph she had on her desk.

“That’s your dad, right?” he said. Matarrita, now 33, blushed with embarrassment. The man in the picture was her boyfriend, Nick Bisesi, 24 years her senior at 57.

“It’s the sort of thing that happens all the time,” she tells The Post. “But now I just laugh it off.”

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Matarrita and Bisesi’s age-gap relationship — chronicled on their Instagram page, @agelesslovers — is going strong, despite initial naysaying from their families.

“Some people thought it was ridiculous,” says Bisesi, a restaurant and nightclub owner from LA who met Matarrita at one of his bars. “But seven years on, we are still together.”

Still, the couple’s 20-year age gap is small compared to that of 2016 Princeton valedictorian Cameron Platt, 25, and her former professor, Lee Clark Mitchell, 71. The lovebirds recently made headlines for getting engaged, despite a whopping 46-year age difference.

Psychotherapist Moshe Ratson, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Midtown, says many people wrongly assume age-gap love is doomed.

“If you have a good foundation for your relationship and you have a common bond and values, there is no reason why it shouldn’t succeed,” he says. “You should live in the present moment. Who knows what is going to happen in the future? It’s best to just go for it.”

That was the case for Unitarian ministers Robin Tanner, 35, and her wife, Ann Marie Alderman, 65, who met through their church.

The Summit, NJ, couple wed in 2005. They have three young children, whom Alderman increasingly looks after because of Tanner’s busy schedule as a political and LGBTQ activist.

“When you’re with someone your own age, there can be a sense of competition in your career, but we’re beyond that,” says Tanner. “We work as a team.”

Although their congregation has welcomed them with open arms, they nevertheless have encountered some prejudice over their 30-year age gap.

“One woman said to us, ‘I don’t know how you can do that. It would be like me dating my son,’ ” says Tanner.

Lee Clark Mitchell, 71, and 2016 Princeton valedictorian Cameron Platt, 25, recently got engaged.Princeton.edu; Denise Applewhite

Alderman says there are times when their age gap is “more apparent — like when I talk about having lived through the deaths of JFK and Martin Luther King.” But emotionally, she thinks they even out. “In many ways, Robin is more traditional than me.”

Catskills-based parents of three Blythe Carey, 59, and Howard Harrison, 83, have had their dynamic shift over the course of their relationship.

The teacher and photographer, respectively, met in Manhattan in 1983 through mutual friends. Carey was fresh out of college, and, through their 24-year age gap, she quickly came to see Harrison as something of a father figure.

“He was so much wiser and seemed like a safe thing, as a grown-up,” says Carey. In hindsight, she says, she can see that the “power balance was a bit off at the beginning.” But in the long term, she says, it’s evened out — and they’ve even swapped roles a bit.

“Howard had some health issues recently, and I’ve been able to be there, caring for him,” she says. “If we were the same age, it might be different.”

That said, Carey thinks the 46-year age difference between Princeton’s Platt and Mitchell “does seem like a really big gap . . . But who am I to judge?

“If she loves him and he loves her and there’s nobody that they’re hurting, what’s the problem?”

With additional reporting by Hannah Sparks.

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