{"id":10891,"date":"2017-02-09T00:40:25","date_gmt":"2017-02-09T00:40:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thefastfashion.com\/?p=10891"},"modified":"2017-02-09T00:43:24","modified_gmt":"2017-02-09T00:43:24","slug":"need-stop-joking-cash-outside-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thefastfashion.com\/?p=10891","title":{"rendered":"Why We Need To Stop Joking About The &#8220;Cash Me Outside&#8221; Girl"},"content":{"rendered":"<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_3851\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>In the past week, the phrase, &#8220;cash me ousside, how bou dat?<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>&#8221; has become a meme, a song lyric, a T-shirt slogan, a<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>Bitmoji, and a very telling point about how our culture views domestic abuse.<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>Let&#8217;s back up a little: In September 2016, Dr. Phil [a US psychologist and TV host] had 13-year-old Danielle Peskowitz Bregoli and her mum, Barbara Ann,<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>on his show<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>because Danielle was stealing her mum&#8217;s car and was &#8220;out of control&#8221;. Actually, Barbara said she wanted Danielle put in jail or, as Dr. Phil succinctly put it, she &#8220;wanted to give up my car-stealing, knife-wielding, twerking 13-year-old daughter who tried to frame me for a crime.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4069\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>As Danielle tells her story, the audience starts laughing at her and she notices, saying, &#8220;All these hoes laughing like something&#8217;s funny,&#8221; and then the catchphrase was born, &#8220;Cash me ousside how bou dat.&#8221; (You can watch the full video<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>here.) She means, &#8220;She&#8217;ll catch you outside to do what she needs to do to you,&#8221; Barbara Ann translates. Where&#8217;s the punchline? You didn&#8217;t miss anything: The internet&#8217;s just taken to mocking and appropriating a minor&#8217;s violent threat.<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><div class=\"box shadow  \"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\t\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: rgb(255, 255, 255); margin: 1px; padding: 0px; border-radius: 3px; border: 0px currentColor; width: calc(100% - 2px); max-width: 658px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5), 0px 1px 10px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);\" data-instgrm-version=\"7\">\n<div style=\"padding: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background: rgb(248, 248, 248); padding: 50% 0px; width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px;\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<p style=\"padding: 8px 0px 7px; text-align: center; color: rgb(201, 200, 205); line-height: 17px; overflow: hidden; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin-top: 8px; margin-bottom: 0px; white-space: nowrap; -ms-text-overflow: ellipsis;\"><a style=\"color: rgb(201, 200, 205); line-height: 17px; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BPfmLgjgt1G\/\" target=\"_blank\">A photo posted by wolfgrillz (@wolfgrillz)<\/a> on <time style=\"line-height: 17px; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px;\" datetime=\"2017-01-20T16:57:14+00:00\">Jan 20, 2017 at 8:57am PST<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><script src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\" defer=\"\" async=\"\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4152\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>&#8220;It&#8217;s hard to label, because we don&#8217;t know all the facts, but we know that when a young child acts out, those behaviours are usually a product of their environment and a warning sign that there&#8217;s more to the story,&#8221; says Bryan Pacheco, a spokesperson for the US-based domestic abuse hotline and shelter,<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>Safe Horizon. &#8220;What has she seen in her life that&#8217;s encouraging her to act like that?&#8221; The<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span><em>Dr. Phil<\/em><span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>video would suggest she&#8217;s seen quite a bit, and Pacheco points out that her mum&#8217;s antagonising language is concerning and could have egged her on \u2014 she calls her a bitch, a lot.<\/p>\n<div class=\"remaining-body&#10;                        &#10;                        &#10;                            &#10;                            &#10;                        &#10;                        \" id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_3786\" style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; line-height: 1.5; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4006\">The video was dormant for about five months until it resurfaced with memes ablaze, and pretty much everyone starting experimenting with all the different ways to use her catchphrase, &#8220;Cash me ousside, how bou dat.&#8221; When the internet took the reins, things exploded, and it&#8217;s safe to say this is probably the most traffic Dr. Phil&#8217;s YouTube page has seen since 2006.<\/p>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4162\">People got poetic:<\/p>\n<div class=\"box shadow  \"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\t\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">I&#8217;m about to be sliding in DMs like&#8230;<br \/>\nRoses are red. My heart is fat.<br \/>\nBe my Valentine or cash me outside how bout dat<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 omgdanya (@Omgdanya) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Omgdanya\/status\/825189853713281024\">January 28, 2017<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\" async=\"\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4222\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>And someone wrote a trap remix:<\/p>\n<div class=\"Ratio-16-9 My-18 Cl-b\" style='height: 0px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; padding-bottom: 360px; clear: both; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 18px; margin-bottom: 18px; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; position: relative; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"300\" height=\"150\" class=\"RatioBox Bd-0 \" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_IQUrR2qkj4\" data-mce-fragment=\"1\" data-lazyload-src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_IQUrR2qkj4\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>Even Tom Brady used the turn of phrase to caption his Insta:<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><div class=\"box shadow  \"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\t\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: rgb(255, 255, 255); margin: 1px; padding: 0px; border-radius: 3px; border: 0px currentColor; width: calc(100% - 2px); max-width: 658px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 1px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.5), 0px 1px 10px 0px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);\" data-instgrm-version=\"7\">\n<div style=\"padding: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background: rgb(248, 248, 248); padding: 50% 0px; width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px;\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<p style=\"padding: 8px 0px 7px; text-align: center; color: rgb(201, 200, 205); line-height: 17px; overflow: hidden; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; margin-top: 8px; margin-bottom: 0px; white-space: nowrap; -ms-text-overflow: ellipsis;\"><a style=\"color: rgb(201, 200, 205); line-height: 17px; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BQMLrNgjc_R\/\" target=\"_blank\">A photo posted by Tom Brady (@tombrady)<\/a> on <time style=\"line-height: 17px; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px;\" datetime=\"2017-02-07T00:31:27+00:00\">Feb 6, 2017 at 4:31pm PST<\/time><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><script src=\"\/\/platform.instagram.com\/en_US\/embeds.js\" defer=\"\" async=\"\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><span style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; float: none; display: inline !important; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>Jesus also took the wheel:<\/span><\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><div class=\"box shadow  \"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\t\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">church signs are getting out of hand \ud83d\ude02 &#8220;cash God inside, howbow dah?&#8221; <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/Bku138XFCu\">pic.twitter.com\/Bku138XFCu<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 \u3164\u3164\u3164 (@whataboutdj) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/whataboutdj\/status\/824653372926128129\">January 26, 2017<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\" async=\"\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4348\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>The meme has been hot for a little more than a week, which is an eternity in viral time. There was a<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>fake story<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>that was quickly shut down suggesting that Danielle committed suicide because she couldn&#8217;t handle the bullying. Someone even launched a<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>merch site<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>with &#8220;Cash me ousside&#8221; T-shirts, tote bags, and throw blankets. There are even<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>Valentine&#8217;s Day cards<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>that say, &#8220;Roses are red, your eye gone be black if you cash me outside, how bou dat?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>While even the<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span><em>Dr. Phil<\/em><span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>show has its own issues (like most reality television, we can assume it&#8217;s edited in a way that doesn&#8217;t show all the facts, but rather a carefully curated puzzle of events), making memes and parodies of this teen&#8217;s threats of violence normalises the behaviour in a dangerous way, Pacheco says. &#8220;It doesn&#8217;t set appropriate boundaries, clearly it isn&#8217;t appropriate, but if it&#8217;s on TV it&#8217;s something to laugh at,&#8221; he says. Snowballing on the jokes isn&#8217;t just a bad way to address her behaviour, it actually makes it worse.<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>It&#8217;s easy to laugh behind a computer screen, but there could be real-life consequences. Just today, a<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>video surfaced on TMZ<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">&nbsp;<\/span>of Danielle punching someone on an airplane. &#8220;Not that it ever was a joke, but it shows what could happen to someone treating it as such,&#8221; Pacheco adds.<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>You should always be conscious of what you&#8217;re perpetuating, he says. &#8220;If you saw this behaviour in real life with a family member or friend, it wouldn&#8217;t be behaviour you wanted to nurture.&#8221; He also adds that there&#8217;s a layer of victim-blaming that goes hand-in-hand with the jokes, because many people are saying that there&#8217;s something wrong with her parents \u2014 while that could be true, speculating doesn&#8217;t help her, it just points more fingers.<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><div class=\"box shadow  \"><div class=\"box-inner-block\"><i class=\"fa tie-shortcode-boxicon\"><\/i>\n\t\t\t\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">y&#8217;all made the &#8220;cash me outside&#8221; girl think that being disrespectful to her parents and a delinquent is fame worthy? wtf is society now<\/p>\n<p>\u2014 kennedy grace (@woahkennedy) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/woahkennedy\/status\/828870693685178368\">February 7, 2017<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'><script src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\" async=\"\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t<\/div><\/div>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_4421\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>In most cases, a child&#8217;s violent behaviour is a call for attention and help, Pacheco says. They need a safe space \u2014 behind closed doors, not on national television \u2014 to speak with a counsellor who can get to the heart of what they&#8217;re feeling or experiencing. &#8220;Any person who acts out like this, there&#8217;s going to be more to the story.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>Also remember: Danielle is 13 years old. &#8220;The way a mother interacts with her daughter when she was six, her development starts there, but by the time she&#8217;s 13 then the dynamics change because she might not be able to control them, or feel embarrassed by her behaviour,&#8221; Pacheco says.<\/p>\n<p id=\"yui_3_18_0_4_1486600599634_3806\" style='margin: 0px 0px 1.1em; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); text-transform: none; text-indent: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.3px; font-family: \"Helvetica Neue\", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.5px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; word-spacing: 0px; white-space: normal; orphans: 2; widows: 2; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px;'>If you notice this threatening language or behaviour in a friend or family member, use it as an opportunity to check in with the person. 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