A woman was left shocked and confused after she received an accidental text from her future mother-in-law after what she thought had been a successful day of wedding-dress shopping.
The bride-to-be took to Reddit to ask for advice, revealing, “My soon to be MIL is talking s*** about my mom and I’m not sure what to do.”
She and her college sweetheart had been together for 10 years when they decided to get married. In anticipation of the wedding, the woman explained, she invited her mom, a good friend, her soon-to-be mother-in-law, and her fiancé’s sister to go to look at wedding dresses.
“Overall we had a great day and I got the most amazing dress. My mom cried and my fiancé’s mom cried, it was special,” Reddit user Bamboo2u wrote.
At lunch, a discussion came up about the woman taking her husband’s surname after they’re married.
“My mom told everyone she suggested I keep my maiden name for work only, and take my fiancé’s name for personal life,” she said. “I want to keep my personal life private from my work life. And my fiancé’s mom agreed with my mom, because that is what she does for work too.”
But later that evening, she was left shocked after receiving a text from her mother-in-law, which she quickly realized had been sent to her by accident.
“I made the mistake of reading it in my car with my fiancé in the car. The text said the whole day was a s*** show and that my mom advised me to not take my fiancé’s name for career reasons,” she said.
“I’m so hurt and pissed that she would go around spreading lies about my mom. She knows that’s not what my mom said.”
After explaining the situation to her partner, he actually asked his mom to apologize — but apparently she refused to do so.
“I’m not sure what to do at this point. I saw my future mother-in-law the other day and she refused to look at me or even talk to me,” the woman wrote.
“What do I do from here? How to I get her to speak with me about what is going on without making the matter even worse?”
Many commenters were equally outraged by the text message, and said the bride should definitely confront her.
“If it was me then she’d be put on notice I expect a full written apology and if I ever hear her talking crap or stomping boundaries again she’ll be uninvited to whatever the next big event is,” was one person’s suggestion.
“I would confront her,” another said. “Ask her to detail why she thought it was a ‘s*** show’ and why she thinks its a problem that you will keep your name.”
Others also pointed out that the incident highlighted the kind of person she might be.
“She gave you valuable information about the kind of person she is. Believe her, and adjust your trust in her accordingly,” one person wrote.